Two Sisters and a Basketball

Life is all about the people we meet. The summer of 2004 was my first in California. I was adjusting to life in a new state with my family to include my “new mom”! We were settling into our house in the cul-de-sac, and I was preparing to start eighth grade in a few weeks. I was at home one day and decided to go outside and play basketball on the hoop. (There was a basketball on the ground so I used it.) I figured it belonged to the neighbors but hadn’t seen them much since being there.  I had been shooting for a few minutes when I noticed the window blinds on the neighbor’s house kept shifting. I tried to ignore it but it continued to happen every few minutes, alternating upstairs and downstairs. I was a bit confused but went on shooting. After a while, two girls around my age came out of the house and introduced themselves- Megan and Chelsea.

Once we had covered where I was from, our ages, what schools we were heading to, and what sports we enjoyed, Chelsea excused herself and ran into the house. As soon as the door closed, Megan turned to me and asked, “Do you like my sister?” I was caught off guard and I’m sure she could see my surprised look. I stammered something like, “She seems cool,” and we went on talking. Literally a minute later Chelsea ran back out. As soon as she joined us, they smiled at each other, Megan excused herself and ran into the house. The moment the door closed, Chelsea turned to me and asked, “Do you like my sister?” At this point I was a bit more prepared so laughed and responded the same way I had before. Megan eventually came back out and we proceeded to play basketball and talk. That was the beginning.

Since then, we’ve gone through quite a bit of life together. Middle school and high school, with some of the normal teenage drama included. And major life events as well. It has been fun to see them accomplish the goals they had years ago.

Quick side story: I had the opportunity to watch them play each other in AAU softball during high school. They were on opposing teams and it was exciting to watch. The play that stood out the most? Chelsea was on second base, there was a hit to the outfield where Megan was. Chelsea was rounding third and stopped on a dime when she realized Megan had the ball and was ready to gun her out at the plate! It was a fun time with their family.

Here’s why I tell this story about Meg and Chels: it is now thirteen years later and our friendship is still intact. We don’t talk every day, but when we are in the same city and are able to get together, we do. And the relationship doesn’t skip a beat. Back then, I didn’t know many people. They were in fact the first two friends I made in California.

Megan, it is amazing that you have managed to simultaneously raise a family of four children, support your husband who serves the community as an officer, and build your business “Hands Full Full Heart”. Congratulations on surpassing 4,000 sales! The best is yet to come!

Chels, you continue to amaze me with your work ethic and your passion for sports. To see all you have overcome to get where you are now both in softball and in life is truly inspiring. Congratulations on being named to the 2017 International All-Star Softball Team; no doubt it was well-deserved!

You can’t buy relationships like this. So, I will acknowledge them and share them as a way of saying thank you. I have many friends that are doing amazing things right now and it is exciting and encouraging to see them building! I am so thankful that these two ladies spied on me, let me use their basketball and hoop, and then came outside to talk to me all those years ago.

-David A. Brown-Dawson, 22 August 2017


Rich, John, and a Tale of Two Acronyms

Life is all about the people we meet. During my first few weeks on active duty, I was told that I would be the new ADR OIC. I knew what OIC stood for (Officer-in-Charge), but had no idea what ADR was. (Airfield Damage Repair.) My buddy gave me some places to look for information and the names of two gentlemen who were ADR subject matter experts. After reading up on the basics of the process, I called one of the guys, Rich, and he told me to come on over and we would discuss it. Over the ensuing two hours, they proceeded to explain the entire process to me and answer all my questions, no matter how basic or outlandish. I walked out of the office feeling confident and excited about my new position.

Over the next year and a half in that position, I had the honor and opportunity to work with Navy Seabees, Marine combat engineers, and Japanese Air Self-Defense Force engineers. I am grateful for the foundation that was built during those first two hours with Rich and John. I made mistakes during the training scenarios but I have no doubt that many errors were avoided as a result of our conversation and their investment in me.

I shared this story at my going away celebration and I share it now because the experience left a lasting impact on me and reinforced some valuable lessons: one, I do not know everything. Two, I need to do my own research and put effort in to see if I can figure things out.  Three, if I am willing to admit that I do not know everything and ask questions, people will go above and beyond to help me. This is the approach that I take to learning and life. And this was the perfect lesson to begin my military career and set the foundation of my professional leadership and learning style. Time and time again over the last three years, this same process has played out with other teammates and they have stepped up to help me problem solve and produce the best product. It is amazing that people have been so willing to take time out of their days to invest in me, mentor me, and grow me as a young leader.

My goal is to pay it forward to others in a similar fashion.

Rich and John, thank you for taking time out to invest in me. And thank you for your service. I truly appreciate it.

-David A. Brown-Dawson, 7 August 2017

Room for Improvement

The fear of failure often does more damage than failure itself.

A couple weeks ago, I decided to share my post regarding potential on Facebook. After doing so, my buddy Derik reached out to let me know what he thought of the post and to let me know there was a typo… in the first sentence. He even took a screenshot of it to help me out. First, I am very thankful to have friends that are willing to read what I am writing, reach out, and provide constructive criticism to help me improve. Admittedly, I was disappointed in the mistake and immediately went to the post to fix it. However, because it was in the first sentence, it showed up right below the title of the post as it was shared on Facebook (it’s still there, see for yourself). This experience was both humbling and encouraging.

Humbling: It served as a reminder that I have a lot of work to do on my writing and editing abilities.

Encouraging: It was a reminder that I have a lot of room for improvement and growth in my writing and editing abilities.

The ideas sound the same and they are definitely connected. At the heart of it is this: my writing journey is a process. And as such, I am going to make mistakes and fail as I continue to write (and I will continue to write). This mistake would not have been made, and I would not have faced the disappointment and embarrassment had I decided not to post anything. Same thing can be said about a basketball player missing a shot. They won’t face the disappointment of missing the shot if they decide not to shoot. However, they know three things. One, in order to score, they have to shoot and be willing to risk missing.  Two, missing is part of the game. Three, the way to become a better basketball player is to go to the court and start dribbling and shooting.

A quick aside: there is definitely value in watching game film- learning strategy, best practices, and what you can do better. But that means nothing if you never try and implement what you are learning by stepping on the court and practicing (dribbling and shooting). In that same line, I can read as many books and watch as many videos on writing and editing as I want. But I will not become a better writer if I do not actually write.

Here’s the point: life is all about perspective and choices. You can choose to view each grammatical error or mistake in life as a failure and beat yourself up over it. Or, you can recognize that mistakes are part of the process, learn from them, and implement what you learned in order to improve.

I hope you choose to pursue your potential and whatever you are passionate about, understanding that mistakes (and failure) are part of the process. Make it a great life, or not. The choice is yours.

-David A. Brown-Dawson, 17 June 2017

Potential Choices

“Our potential is one thing. What we choose to do with it is quite another.” – Angela Duckworth, author of Grit 

This week I had the honor of presenting scholarships on behalf of the Society of American Military Engineers to two members of the graduating class of 2017. I have been very encouraged over the past couple weeks as I have talked to middle school and high school students and learned what they are passionate about and what they want to do after high school.

As I was sitting in the audience listening to the other scholarships be given out (many of them to these same two individuals), a quote popped into my head from Angela Duckworth’s book Grit. “Potential is one thing. What we choose to do with it is quite another.” In the opening pages, she offers the above quote as the “fundamental insight that would guide [her] future work…” I offered it to the graduating class, myself, and anybody listening as a call to action.

I remember eight years ago being in their shoes and having people tell me that I had potential. And that potential would have gone to waste if I had not been willing to put in the work necessary to realize a portion of that potential at the end of college: graduating with an engineering degree and commissioning into the Air Force.

This quote has been burning a fire in me since the first day I read it. Because at any given moment in life, I have an unknown amount of potential. If I choose not to improve each day, I am choosing not to live my life to its fullest potential. And that is when I am reminded of the quote from Pastor Steven Furtick: “The pain of falling short is nothing compared to the shame of stopping short… Most of us have far more in us than we are currently using.”

One of my biggest motivators is the thought of reaching the end of my life and having God show me what I could have done – the people I could have helped – if I had lived in my purpose and to my fullest potential. And that drives me. So to anybody out there that comes across this writing, regardless of your age, I leave you with this: Potential is one thing. What you choose to do with it is quite another. You can wake up every morning determined to make improvements in the pursuit of your potential, or you can let that potential and all the good that could have come from it dry up, like a raisin in the sun. Make it a great life, or not. The choice is yours.

– David A. Brown-Dawson, 2 June 2017

Step Back to Move Forward

2017 is flying by. A lot is happening and in the next few months even more will take place. It’s normal to get caught up in the grind or lose focus at times on your goals and objectives. When that happens, it is important to take a step back, revisit your purpose for doing what you are doing, take a deep breath, and then move forward. That is what the last week has been for me. At first I was disappointed that I wasn’t moving forward, I wasn’t shipping. Then I stopped, realized I just needed to refocus, and took some time to do just that. And now: forward with focus.

I’m thankful for modern technology and being able to lean on the wisdom of some of the people that I have met through podcasts and their books. This week, it has been John Maxwell, Simon Sinek, and Jim Collins.

In his discussion on the EntreLeadership Podcast, John Maxwell describes his day with legendary coach John Wooden. Hearing a legendary teacher speak about another legendary teacher who he looks up to was fascinating. Hearing how he meticulously prepared for his meeting with Coach Wooden was both impressive and educational. In addition, one of the questions he asks people he meets (and the way he was introduced to Coach Wooden) was “who do you know that I should know?” That simple question can change lives and speaks to the heart of this project; we never know how our lives may change because of the people we meet.

I have been a Simon Sinek fan from the first time I watched his “Start with Why” TEDTalk a few years ago. His perspective and willingness to understand and challenge common approaches to leadership (and life) have been inspiring. I have gained so much from his interviews and speeches; I believe he is one of the premier leadership gurus of this time.

I purchased Jim Collins’ Good to Great and read it a few months ago. I remember listening to him read via his audiobook and having the actual book open in front of me to underline those lessons and values that popped out. It has stayed close as I have been working on my projects as a guide; there are numerous underlined sentences and notes that I have written in the margins.

The bottom line is this: life is all about the people you meet. Sometimes you meet them in person, and I do hope to meet each of these three gentlemen in person. Sometimes you meet them through the words they have written or the speeches they have delivered. And sometimes you meet them through interviews and impromptu conversations they have been a part of.  This week, these three gentlemen deposited knowledge, encouragement, and inspiration in me when I needed it most. And I am very appreciative.

If you have met these three men (four including Coach Wooden) in person or via another avenue, then you probably share my sentiment. If not, I hope you take some time to do so; they may change your life.

One final question from me to you:

Who do you know that I should know?


In Service,

David A. Brown-Dawson, 27 May 2017


Love your parents. We are so busy growing up, we often forget they are also growing old.


Last week was Mother’s Day and although I did not post anything specifically about my mom, I had the opportunity to actually video chat with her for about 30 minutes. Since that conversation, I have been thinking a lot about my family and specifically about my parents. I remembered the above quote and it has been in my head and on my heart.

One of my most memorable times was the summer of 2014, when I was back home living with my parents and little sister, surrounded by all of my immediate family. I had just finished my congressional internship in Washington, D.C. and I was working as a quality assurance engineer as I waited to come on active duty. I distinctly remember late night conversations with my dad while cleaning out the garage in which we talked about our family history, his youth in West Africa, and his early years in America. I understood in those moments just how important that time with him was; I gained a better understanding of my dad and what he has been through. The more I learn about my dad, the more I realize he is human, and the more in awe of him and his story I become.

My mom and I shared some serious, some funny, and some seriously funny conversations while cooking in the kitchen and on days she would come home from a tough day and still be down to talk. It was during these times that I learned more about my mom and her experiences when she was at university in London and trying to figure things out as a young adult. I counted myself blessed for these moments of candor in which she passed on knowledge and wisdom, some of which I would only come to appreciate in the months after I had left for Japan. Upon leaving for Japan, my mom gave me a notebook in which she had written pieces of advice and motherly wisdom for my upcoming journey. People say “mothers know” and I truly believe that my mom knew that I would need some penned words of encouragement and love to draw on during my first few months overseas.

If your parents are no longer alive, I am sorry for your loss. If you still have your parents or a parent, call them as much as possible. Never forget that while you are working on your career and focused on building your life, they are getting older. Even as I say this, I know I need to be more diligent in heeding this piece of advice. Full disclosure: I have not called them since talking to her and my younger sister last weekend. I plan on talking to them this weekend though, count on it.

-David A. Brown-Dawson, 19 May 2017

“Fill Me Up”… Go All In

Over the past couple weeks one song has been playing repeatedly in my head. “Fill Me Up” by Tasha Cobb (that may not be the original, but it is the first version I heard). That said, this weekend the song hit me in a major way.

“If you provide the fire, I’ll provide the sacrifice.” This line has been on my heart and mind all weekend. To me, it is a commitment from the writer that if God provides the opportunity, they will do whatever it takes to maximize the opportunity. This was a conviction for me- God is providing many opportunities, but am I taking advantage of them? Am I sacrificing my time, energy, comfort for my purpose? The obvious answer for me was no. The better response is “why not?”

Complacency, laziness, loss of perspective (focusing on short-term rather than long-term). These were some of my immediate answers.

I’ve been working, but I haven’t taken it to the next level. I haven’t been sacrificing. That changes now.

Whether you have a relationship with God or not, this song is about knowing what your purpose is and then working harder than you have ever worked before in line with that purpose. It’s about bringing everything you have to the table. And working. And working. Not stopping when you are tired, not stopping when you want to go out. It takes me back to when I was in college and listening to Dr. Eric Thomas. He said, “If you don’t have a 4.0, what you need to be doing is studying.” I took that message to heart and was completely dialed in that semester; I don’t think it was a coincidence that that was the one semester I achieved a 4.0.

My challenge to whoever is reading is this: take some time to determine what your purpose is. Decide what you are passionate about. Then go all in. Use every tool in your toolbox and get to work.